I like jigsaw puzzles. They help pass time but let you feel like you’re accomplishing something. First you dump out the pieces and turn every one downside up - or is it right side up? At least you’ve accomplished something very important.
Next, you look for all the border pieces and start assembling them. Once you get that done, you have taken a major step forward. The next steps are very individually driven. Some sort the remaining pieces by color. Some start putting together obvious groups, like a basket or a dog or a person. They place them in roughly their position according to the box lid picture. Sooner or later, the pieces begin to connect with each other and the puzzle is solved.
To me, life is sort of like that. You take whatever ideas or expectations you have, decide what side is “up”, then try to fit them into a framework of understanding. Once defined, you start putting the ideas together in a logical, to you at least, way to get the desired result. Now, suddenly, you find yourself the center of attention as if you were doing a jigsaw puzzle in a high traffic area in your house: everyone wants to help! Not all help is helpful but everyone wants to feel part of the project. Likewise, your plans seem sensible to a few, obvious to a few more and idiotic to the majority.
Here’s where you have to decide who’s in charge. If you started the jigsaw puzzle and wanted lots of company, fine! If you started the project and wanted to complete it by yourself, fine! If you want to be happy with the results, you must decide what help you want, if any. Sounds simple enough, right? But you’d be surprised how many projects get derailed by well-intentioned helpers.
Remember: good help is hard to find!
I'm Pete Vanderpool and that's My Educated Guess.