According to author David Eagleman, there are three deaths. The first is when the body ceases to function. The second is when the body is consigned to the grave. The third is that moment, sometime in the future, when your name is spoken for the last time.
I was standing outside the meeting room waiting for a friend, serving as an unintended greeter, when a man I knew well responded to the usual question, “How you doing?” with, “Pete, I miss my brother. People tell me I’ll get over it, but I can’t”! I think I surprised him when I replied, “and you shouldn’t”!
We stepped out of the traffic pattern and talked. I pointed out that we have many memories of the missing individual, and we need to keep them and share them with others who also have memories of him or her. Often laughter results. It’s healing, yes, but not in the way that you forget the pain of surgery and go on. It is soul healing, and that requires sharing. Other people sharing means they, too, are soul-healing. How much time is required? Look at David’s third death. Seems to me that pushing that time as far back as possible, maybe for generations, is worthy.
I guess, hidden in that third death is a need to be aware of what kind of legacy we are creating. It should be incentive to show more compassion, understanding and support to those around us. We should watch our responses, reaction, and words as we go about our daily activities. Our life’s timeline is unknown. Our legacy timeline can be affected by what we do today. Make it as long as you can.
I'm Pete Vanderpool and that's My Educated Guess.